Sexual Bondage

Sexual Bondage Question and Answers

 

Q: I am 19 years old and am in a homosexual relationship. This isn't the first but I hope its the last. I thought that my last relationship was the one that I would spend my life with but, once again I was left, feeling abandoned and  used. I was raised in a Christian home and my family, although they still offer me love and support, keeps telling me that what I'm doing is wrong but will I go to hell? I've always had these feelings and I believe that I was born this way. Desperate for answers: Jake H.

A: Dear Jake, you are not alone in the struggle of homosexuality. This has captured millions in its snare of sexual temptation and desire and when you engage in homosexual relations or lust (willful fantasizing about such relations) God is deeply grieved and sets about in a variety of ways to turn you from such a destructive course. If you are currently living in a homosexual relationship it is important that you immediately turn away from that lifestyle and seek the face of God for forgiveness of your sin through Jesus Christ. When homosexual thoughts arise in your mind, you must reject them and turn your mind to thoughts of how God wants for you to live and the way in which he created us was not for same sex relations as it isn't natural for man to be with man or woman with woman. (Philippians 4:4-8). The Bible says, "No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it" (1 Corinthians 10:13). You must discipline your mind as an athlete disciplines his body.

God not only wants to protect you from homosexual behavior, but He wants to begin to meet the deep needs at the root of your same-sex desires. Apart from a true God given miracle, the psychological and spiritual healing that will lead you to sexual wholeness does not happen overnight nor is it quickly. Sodom and Gomorrah was destroyed due to their sin which was steeped in sexual immorality. Homosexuality is indeed an abomination to God. We were created in His image when He first made Adam in His image and took a rib from Adam while he was sleeping to give him a help meet. It was never intended for man to lie with man or woman with woman and this is spoken of in several area's in the Bible although many homosexual pastors will attempt to make you  believe otherwise. Romans 1:27 states: and likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their error which was meet."1 Corinthians 6:9-11 says: Do you not know that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the Kingdom of God. God does not want unbelievers to remain in their sin and self destructive lifestyle. God can set us free from sinful nature (Romans 7:23, 8:2). He will give us new desires (Ephesians 4:22, 24), and help us to withstand temptations (1  Corinthians 10:13)Please take the time to read and study the following Scripture on this topic so that you will see that this is not my word nor opinion, it is the word of God Almighty, our Creator, our Father, our Sovereign Lord who is the Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the end and without Whom we have no promise of eternal life.

Usually, outside help is necessary. We highly suggest that you contact a Christian ministry which assists men and women who want to deal with homosexual issues in their lives. For information about a ministry which may exist in your general area, you may want to contact Exodus International North America, P. O. Box 540119, Orlando, Florida, 32854, telephone: (888) 264-0877; or, Homosexuals Anonymous Fellowship Services, P.O. Box 7881, Reading, Pennsylvania 19603, telephone: (610) 376-1146.

Turn your life, your will and emotions over to the care of God, leaving these feelings and temptations at the foot of the cross. Only the love of the Lord, the body of Christ can help with this struggle, especially in this world we live with constant sexual and immoral temptation coming at us in every direction.